Humility is often can slap you in the face. Often we can be selfish in our relationships, when we should not be. What can someone else offer me or the relationship, type mentality can defiantly stunt the growth of one. Logically we all realize we should not let the Id have control, but at times it can be over powering.  I have had such an experience. The best part of my experience was that I learned from it, and made a change. That kids is what adults do in times like these.  Perhaps you are dieing to know how I became ashamed I let Id dominate a relationship. Perhaps not, so I will keep it short.

The short version: Rather frustrated with the bantering of a new spark, I finally clearly asked what was with the unclear messages of where this relationship was going. "You are cute, I do want to take you on a date, I am interested, I enjoy hanging out with you, I like getting to know you..." Than the *SLAP* " But you don't know anything about me, and you never ask! You should. ;-)"

WOW did I ever feel small! Here I had just gone off on him about mixed signals, and how men suck because well they are men. Yet, it was me who was not attentive enough. It was me that sucked! I corrected my actions and began a fun game of 20 questions. This made both parties smile and was the start of several interesting, riveting, fun conversations.

MORALS KIDS: Sometimes we need to check ourselves before we wreck ourselves! And we need to be open to hearing things we may not like, and take that information to make improvements!

Shoot for mediocre!

It has been a hot topic of discussion, more lately, but pretty much always. Actually within the month I have had at least 3 people comment to me if i want to date;  I need to lower my standards. In the same breath such a person would also say, wow you are an amazing person and deserve the best. If a standard is by definition a level of excellence.  Once someone determines their excellence level; why would they lower it?

If I compromise my standards, what some people consider to be the thing holding me back from a relationship. Than I compromise myself. If I am compromised eventually I will seek who I truly am, then what is to come of the relationship that was built based on lower expectations. People, well intelligent people do not sit their children on their knee and say "shoot for mediocre, kid". Why would the "shoot for the stars" mindset not apply to relationships.


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During the course of our relationships there are some things we just do not expect to do. For example when your 6 you never expect throwing a slushy at your best friend would be your reaction to them to building a tree house with your arch enemy (the boy across the street). Or at 13 you never expect to let that secret slip that causes embarrassment to your friend you have known for 13 years. One would expect the apology to be accepted if the boy was cute, but often physical attributes wont dry the tears of a shattered girl. Sweet 16's expect the promise ring to be the commitment that makes their friends jealous. Teen boys expect to be rejected, yet still yawn and stretch at the movies, for that one unexpected turn from the girl during the scary part. Everyone expects to fall in love, or at least hopes for it. No one should expect the end of a relationship when they first get into it.    I am curious within a relationship what is one thing you never expected to do (good or bad)?

For awhile now I have tossed around the idea of Blogging. I have ideas you know. Someone other than myself might find them interesting; perhaps not. Sometimes, we try things just to say we did it, maybe this is one of those times. Maybe this is one of those times where something is started and a community grows. Perhaps it only provides a little sanctuary in our crazy world. The reader and writer escape into some other ciaos.  Regardless, lets start this adventure.