Humility is often can slap you in the face. Often we can be selfish in our relationships, when we should not be. What can someone else offer me or the relationship, type mentality can defiantly stunt the growth of one. Logically we all realize we should not let the Id have control, but at times it can be over powering.  I have had such an experience. The best part of my experience was that I learned from it, and made a change. That kids is what adults do in times like these.  Perhaps you are dieing to know how I became ashamed I let Id dominate a relationship. Perhaps not, so I will keep it short.

The short version: Rather frustrated with the bantering of a new spark, I finally clearly asked what was with the unclear messages of where this relationship was going. "You are cute, I do want to take you on a date, I am interested, I enjoy hanging out with you, I like getting to know you..." Than the *SLAP* " But you don't know anything about me, and you never ask! You should. ;-)"

WOW did I ever feel small! Here I had just gone off on him about mixed signals, and how men suck because well they are men. Yet, it was me who was not attentive enough. It was me that sucked! I corrected my actions and began a fun game of 20 questions. This made both parties smile and was the start of several interesting, riveting, fun conversations.

MORALS KIDS: Sometimes we need to check ourselves before we wreck ourselves! And we need to be open to hearing things we may not like, and take that information to make improvements!